Why we sometimes need to say Good-bye

Some people come into your life to stay, others are only meant to stay for a short time. This is not a bad thing, this is just a part of life, it doesn't mean that it is easy but it also doesn't mean we should dwell on those who are not meant to be with you for the long haul.

What seems to happen is people tend to focus on those that have left but don't notice the people who are constantly there feeling the void left by the one departed.

The isolation of lock-down definitely put a magnifying glass on friendships and relationships, I know for myself I started to see where some friendships where no longer serving me or the other person in a healthy and constructive way. In many situations it was the case that we had both outgrown each other and had nothing left to offer the friendship.

In others it was the case of seeing the friendship had become one-sided and no longer offered the comradeship it once did.

No matter the situation it is never easy to say good-bye to the friendship and let go and move on.

So how do we end friendships gracefully?

1. Fade-out

If there is no act of betrayal than you can let the friendship fade-out, if the friendship has run its course, than slowly let the contact diminish over time, for example if you talk four times a week bring it slowly down to one, and eventually fade away. 

2. Tell them how you feel.

You'll want to come from a place of love, you don't want to invite the person over and unleash years of resentment on them in one heap. Instead let them know that its not them but instead the way you both are interacting that is no longer working. If you choose to go into details than make sure it is kind and informative and not critical and judgmental.

Whichever way you decide to bring a friendship make sure you are coming from a place of love and respect, the friendship may be ending but there is no need to gossip and be disrespectful.